Clinical therapy if you live in the UK, select European countries, or South Africa. Coaching and a small group programme if you are anywhere else, or if you want structured, forward-focused work rather than open-ended treatment. The same clinical understanding of how gay men get formed runs through all three. This page sorts out which one is yours.
This is the clinical base of the practice. BACP- and HPCSA-registered psychotherapy built around minority stress, attachment, shame, and the patterns formed by growing up gay in environments where visibility carried a cost. That territory is the work itself here. It does not get bolted onto a generic framework.
Clinical work is regulated work. Under my registrations I can only take therapy clients who live in the UK, select European countries, or South Africa. There is no way around that, and I do not look for one.
Availability is deliberately limited. I hold a small caseload, and when it is full there is a waitlist. Therapy starts with a full 60-minute first session. Before we meet you complete a detailed history form, which I read in advance, so the hour goes into your story rather than paperwork. By the end of it you will know how I work, and I will know whether I can help.
Coaching is where the practice goes when geography rules therapy out, or when treatment is the wrong tool for what you are carrying. It takes the same clinical understanding of how gay men get formed and points it forward: the patterns running your relationships, your work, your body, your silence in certain rooms, and what you do about them now.
This is intensive work, and most of it happens between sessions. Each container includes written support between meetings, because the pattern does not wait for your next appointment to run. Expect to be working all month, with the sessions as the spine.
To be plain about it: coaching is not therapy and does not pretend to be. There is no diagnosis, no treatment, no crisis cover. It is built for men who are functional and stuck. If you are in clinical-level distress, this is the wrong room. The intake after purchase asks directly, and if it is the wrong room you are refunded.
6-Month Container
The patterns took decades to form. Six months gives them room to actually move.
3-Month Container
Enough time to see the pattern clearly and start interrupting it.
Book the intro session or start a container directly. A short intake follows. If coaching is the wrong room for what you are carrying, you are refunded and I point you somewhere better. Coaching is not therapy or a crisis service.
The Formation Programme runs the pattern recognition work in a small group. Six men, twelve weeks, six structured sessions moving through the territory where gay male patterns get formed: family and first rooms, shame, relationships, body and sexuality, identity versus performance, and what you actually want.
You build your own Pattern Map as the cohort moves through the domains. Guided and structured, written in your own hand, and yours when it is done. Midway through, you get one private session with me to work on your map directly.
The group is the point. Most gay men were shaped by rooms. Sitting in a room with five other men doing the same work, hearing your own pattern come out of someone else’s mouth, does something one-to-one work cannot reach. The cohort is capped at six because beyond that, men start performing for the room instead of working in it.
Cohorts run quarterly. Dates are released to the waitlist first, and places go in order of the list.
Therapy is clinical treatment. It is regulated, it works with diagnosis and clinical distress, and under my BACP and HPCSA registrations I can only provide it to clients living in the UK, select European countries, or South Africa.
Coaching is non-clinical developmental work. It is forward-focused, it assumes you are fundamentally functional, and it is available worldwide precisely because it is not treatment. The Formation Programme sits on the same side of that line: structured, non-clinical group work.
The line matters, and I hold it. If therapy is not available in your country and you are in clinical-level distress, coaching is the wrong room. Seek licensed care in your own country first. Coaching can sit alongside therapy, or follow it. It does not replace it, and I will not let it pretend to.
The same clinical understanding of how gay men get formed runs through all three. What changes is the format, the regulation, and where in the world you can access it.
| Detail | Therapy | Coaching | The Formation Programme |
|---|---|---|---|
| What it is | Clinical psychotherapy, regulated | Developmental coaching, non-clinical | Structured group work, non-clinical |
| Availability | UK, Ireland, select European countries, and South Africa | Worldwide | Worldwide |
| Format | Individual, weekly, 50 minutes, secure video | Individual, weekly, 50 minutes, with written support between sessions | Group of six men, six 90-minute sessions over twelve weeks, plus one private session |
| First session | Paid 60-minute clinical assessment | Paid 60-minute intake, $225 | Application via the waitlist |
| Fees | €135 per 50-minute session | $850 per month on the 3-month container, $750 per month on the 6-month container | $700 founding cohort, $900 standard thereafter |
| Currency | EUR | USD | USD |
| Billing | Per session, no minimum commitment | Monthly | One payment per cohort |
| Best for | Gay men in an eligible region who want open-ended clinical work | Functional men who want forward-focused work anywhere in the world | Men who want structured pattern work alongside a small group |
| Region | Therapy | Coaching | Formation |
|---|---|---|---|
| United Kingdom | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Ireland | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Select European countries (Spain, Denmark, Norway, Greece, Cyprus, Netherlands, Belgium, Sweden, Portugal) | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| South Africa | Yes, under HPCSA | Yes | Yes |
| Germany and France | No | Yes | Yes |
| United States, Canada, and elsewhere | No | Yes | Yes |
Therapy is clinical work, restricted by registration to the regions marked above. Germany and France are excluded from therapy on regulatory grounds. Coaching and the Formation Programme are non-clinical and open worldwide.
If you are unsure, start with the therapy first session or a coaching session and say so up front. Within the hour it is usually clear which room you belong in, and if it is a different one than you booked, you will be told directly and sorted out.
With a full 60-minute first session, booked directly. Sessions are €135 each. You complete a detailed history form beforehand which I read in advance. By the end of the hour you know how I work and I know whether I can help. The client agreement covering the cancellation policy and limits of confidentiality is shared before the first session.
Yes, through coaching or the Formation Programme. Both are non-clinical and available worldwide. Clinical therapy is restricted to clients in the UK, select European countries, and South Africa under BACP and HPCSA registration. If you are outside those regions and in clinical-level distress, seek licensed care in your own country first.
No. Coaching and the Formation Programme are developmental, structured, and non-clinical. They assume you are fundamentally functional. They are not treatment, not diagnosis, and not a crisis service. They can sit alongside therapy or follow it. They do not replace it.
USD. Coaching containers are billed monthly. The Formation Programme is billed once per cohort. Therapy is €135 per session, billed individually in EUR.
Start with a first session, and we will sort it. If none of this is the right room for you, you will hear that too.