Clinical therapy if you live in the UK or EU. Coaching and a small group programme if you are anywhere else, or if you want structured, forward-focused work rather than open-ended treatment. The same clinical understanding of how gay men get formed runs through all three. This page sorts out which one is yours.
This is the clinical base of the practice. BACP- and HPCSA-registered psychotherapy built around minority stress, attachment, shame, and the patterns formed by growing up gay in environments where visibility carried a cost. That territory is the work itself here. It does not get bolted onto a generic framework.
Clinical work is regulated work. Under my registrations I can only take therapy clients who live in the UK or EU. There is no way around that, and I do not look for one.
Availability is deliberately limited. I hold a small caseload, and when it is full there is a waitlist. Therapy starts with a full 60-minute first session. Before we meet you complete a detailed history form, which I read in advance, so the hour goes into your story rather than paperwork. By the end of it you will know how I work, and I will know whether I can help.
Coaching is where the practice goes when geography rules therapy out, or when treatment is the wrong tool for what you are carrying. It takes the same clinical understanding of how gay men get formed and points it forward: the patterns running your relationships, your work, your body, your silence in certain rooms, and what you do about them now.
This is intensive work, and most of it happens between sessions. Each container includes written support between meetings, because the pattern does not wait for your next appointment to run. Expect to be working all month, with the sessions as the spine.
To be plain about it: coaching is not therapy and does not pretend to be. There is no diagnosis, no treatment, no crisis cover. It is built for men who are functional and stuck. If you are in clinical-level distress, this is the wrong room. The intake after purchase asks directly, and if it is the wrong room you are refunded.
6-Month Container
The patterns took decades to form. Six months gives them room to actually move.
3-Month Container
Enough time to see the pattern clearly and start interrupting it.
Book the intro session or start a container directly. A short intake follows. If coaching is the wrong room for what you are carrying, you are refunded and I point you somewhere better. Coaching is not therapy or a crisis service.
The Formation Programme runs the pattern recognition work in a small group. Six men, twelve weeks, six structured sessions moving through the territory where gay male patterns get formed: family and first rooms, shame, relationships, body and sexuality, identity versus performance, and what you actually want.
You build your own Pattern Map as the cohort moves through the domains. Guided and structured, written in your own hand, and yours when it is done. Midway through, you get one private session with me to work on your map directly.
The group is the point. Most gay men were shaped by rooms. Sitting in a room with five other men doing the same work, hearing your own pattern come out of someone else’s mouth, does something one-to-one work cannot reach. The cohort is capped at six because beyond that, men start performing for the room instead of working in it.
Cohorts run quarterly. Dates are released to the waitlist first, and places go in order of the list.
Therapy is clinical treatment. It is regulated, it works with diagnosis and clinical distress, and under my BACP and HPCSA registrations I can only provide it to clients living in the UK or EU.
Coaching is non-clinical developmental work. It is forward-focused, it assumes you are fundamentally functional, and it is available worldwide precisely because it is not treatment. The Formation Programme sits on the same side of that line: structured, non-clinical group work.
The line matters, and I hold it. If you are outside the UK and EU and you are in clinical-level distress, coaching is the wrong room. Seek licensed care in your own country first. Coaching can sit alongside therapy, or follow it. It does not replace it, and I will not let it pretend to.
If you are unsure, start with the therapy first session or a coaching session and say so up front. Within the hour it is usually clear which room you belong in, and if it is a different one than you booked, you will be told directly and sorted out.
Therapy availability is limited and managed through a consultation. Fees, the cancellation policy, and the client agreement are all covered there before any clinical work begins.
Yes, through coaching or the Formation Programme. Both are non-clinical and available worldwide. Clinical therapy is restricted to UK and EU clients under BACP and HPCSA registration. If you are outside those regions and in clinical-level distress, seek licensed care in your own country first.
No. Coaching and the Formation Programme are developmental, structured, and non-clinical. They assume you are fundamentally functional. They are not treatment, not diagnosis, and not a crisis service. They can sit alongside therapy or follow it. They do not replace it.
USD. Coaching containers are billed monthly. The Formation Programme is billed once per cohort. Therapy fees are handled separately and confirmed when you book the first session.
Start with a first session, and we will sort it. If none of this is the right room for you, you will hear that too.